The
woman every girl dreams of becoming and every man wants to date.
However,
she seems forever ill-fortuned when it comes to romantic affairs. The
men who approach her, in all honesty, can't hold a handle to her. And
the douche she genuinely likes is often too fucked up, lost,
intimidated by her, and unable to deal with her character in general.
Why
is this so? Why do such strong-character women pose a threat to men?
Basically,
there are a few simple answers:
1.
She is too independent and perfectly fine running solo
She
doesn't need a man to look after her or to rely on. She understands
perfectly what she is capable of and acts accordingly. She is proud
of the fact that she is able to take care of herself and genuinely
embraces the fact that her life is exclusively her own
responsibility. She'll never date someone just to make sure she's not
alone. On the contrary. She'll take her solitude over bad company any
time. Also, she won't let her date drive or pay for dinner just
because he's male. She will never apologize for having better
education or earning more money. Contrarily, she will never reflect
on his education, income, or assets in these terms. And she'll only
ask for his help to reach for something on a high shelf to make him
feel useful and better about himself, not because she actually couldn't manage without.
This
is, of course, contrary to what most men are raised to believe about
their role as husbands, fathers, and providers. Biologically
speaking, it challenges their innate need to protect, procreate and
provide while, historically, it undermines the deeply rooted
patriarchal attitudes. Strong-minded women are a threat. They
emasculate men. So it's better to go for a poorly-educated,
unambitious, low-minded, self-content Barbie willing to settle for
being a mother and housewife, right?
2. She knows exactly
what she wants and how she feels
She
doesn't need anyone to tell her what is right or good for her. It's
not that she doesn't value other people's opinion, it's that she
knows herself well enough not to seek other people's approval or
guidance. She doesn't need others to find her answers. She has goals
and works committedly on achieving them. She is self-confident and
rarely hesitates. Nothing can stand on her way when she sets her mind
on something.
But
don't be mistaken: she is nothing but emotionally cold. Actually, she
in perfect peace with her emotions – either negative or positive.
She accepts and expresses her feelings freely because she knows that
being honest with herself is the only liberating way to live.
3.
She seeks integrity and respect
She
has strong moral and ethical convictions, and her actions are in
harmony with these. Her words bear weight as, when she makes a
promise, she truly means it. She is a person of integrity, loyalty
and respect, and she seeks similar traits in men. Unfortunately, as
it turns out, men of integrity are almost impossible to find these
days.
The
easiest way to make her let go is to prove her how little someone's
word means, especially when it gets tough. Consequently, when she
loses her faith, trust and respect for someone, they never get it
back. Never.
4. She sees through
pretence and is able to find out anything
She
has a good sense for people. The first impression she gets of someone
is almost unmistakably right. She is observant. She analyses. It only
takes her a few seconds to tell what a person is really like. It's
like there's an alarm system in her head that instantly goes off if
something feels odd.
Of
course, the closer she grows with someone, the better she is able to
see through their pretentious behaviours, fake promises, and excuses.
However, her emotions sometimes make her turn a blind eye to the
warning signs, but she generally gets back on the right track in a
while. This is because her trust in her instincts is above her trust
in anyone else.
Not
to forget, she is also a great investigator. Her innate good sense
for people combined with stubbornness, persistence and curiosity make
for a killer combination when it comes to finding things out. She
knows exactly where to start from and what to look for. And no matter
how hidden, she always finds what she's looking for. Basically, it's
impossible to bullshit her.
5. She knows her
worth
She
knows her worth and won't settle for anything lesser than she
believes she deserves. This doesn't necessarily imply that she's
looking for something or someone equal to or above her in any aspect;
she finds greatness in most varied things. Yet, she's not easily
impressed. She'll always speak her mind, either positive or negative.
She'll say it out loud if she sees a potential in someone. She'll
encourage improvement and development. She'll try to inspire people
to become the best version of themselves because she doesn't see them
as rivals, but partners.
Is
she really too much?
Are
there any truly realized and self-aware men able to handle her
somewhere out there?
Or is she really better off alone?
Or is she really better off alone?
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